I had a dream a couple of weeks back where this girl I really liked was self-harming. I was devastated; I felt that bad and that sad, and I missed her that much. The whole day, I felt like that. The problem is, that girl I lent some expensive equipment to. Certain parts of that expensive equipment were stolen from our house. She didn't come forward and take responsibility and say to me, 'You know what? I promise you I'll replace those parts or I will give you money for them.' She didn't want to own it at all. Ever since that moment, I had given up talking to her. So between the dream and me not talking to her would have been about three weeks. One of her friends that had known her for some time also had told me, 'Don't be surprised if actually she was the one that had taken my expensive parts and taken them to a pawn shop and pawned them for money or worse yet, drugs.' The more I thought about it, the more I actually thought, 'You know what? Maybe she actually has done that and there was no burglar,' because when I confronted her about it, she got very defensive, like there was a harboring of guilt. But needless to say, that dream of her self-harming and the feelings afterwards after I woke up and feeling like that the entire day was pretty intense. I think I fear the worst for her, being a single mother of 4 normally struggling for money or always under pressure because of external influences. I just got a fear. I think she's going to self-harm perhaps one day in her life, and her kids are going to be left behind. She does reassure me that she will never ever ever do that. And she has quite a strong personality. But you just never know. That could all be a front to show the world that she's trying to be strong, tough, and brave.
Dreams can be complex and subjective, but I can offer some insights based on the details you have provided. It seems that your dream reflects your deep concern and worry about this girl you liked who you feel has betrayed your trust. The act of self-harming in the dream may symbolize her emotional pain and struggle, which you perceive but may not fully understand. The strong emotions you experienced in the dream and throughout the day afterward indicate the depth of your feelings for her and the impact her actions have had on you.
The stolen parts from your expensive equipment could represent the broken trust and loss you feel in the relationship. The fact that she did not take responsibility for her actions may suggest a fear of her avoiding accountability and deflecting blame. The conversation with her friend about the possibility of her being involved in pawn shop activities or substance abuse could contribute to your emerging doubts and suspicions about her character.
Regarding your fear of her potentially self-harming or leaving her children behind, this may stem from your concerns about her difficult financial situation and the external pressures she faces as a single mother. It is important to acknowledge that dreams often express our fears and worries, but they do not necessarily predict the future. While it is natural for you to be concerned, it is also essential to encourage open communication and provide support rather than solely relying on assumptions.
Ultimately, only she can determine her own choices and actions. It may be helpful to have an honest conversation with her about your concerns and allow her the opportunity to address them.