So i was at my old house with my family. My cousin sister came to visit with her mother and maternal grandmother. My cousin sister is the person who married my long term crush 3 or 4 years ago. She was married into a family i always dreamt of marrying. My cousin sister and i never got along since we were kids. Although when we grew up we started being nice to each other but it was all just a fake appearance. When we were kids she would bully me or try to compete with me all the time. She wanted things i wanted. She's a jealous and selfish person. Anyway, back to the dream, in that dream my cousin was avoiding me in a very obvious way. I was trying to chat with her but she wouldn't respond. I also had bought a nice donut with whipped cream for her to have but she refused. I got frustrated at her, i started arguing with her why she was avoiding me but she wouldnt answer so i started to slap her with pillows. But her mom said wait she's pregnant. I stopped and started ignoring her back and then i went upstairs. Some time later she came upstairs to say goodbye to my siblings and everyone except me while staring at me. I got mad and asked her again why she was doing this. I asked her why she was ignoring me she said she wont tell. I said "oh so you're holding a grudge for no reason?" She said "No, there is a reason but i wont tell." And then i was like "fine, but if you ever feel like its the time to tell then do tell me." Then she left and the dream ended.
Dreams can be intricate reflections of our subconscious thoughts, emotions, and unresolved conflicts. Your dream about your cousin sister holds several layers of meaning that may offer insights into your feelings, relationships, and personal struggles.
The setting of your old house symbolizes familiarity and a return to your past, suggesting that you may be revisiting unresolved issues or emotions from earlier in life. The presence of family members underscores the significance of these connections; familial relationships often shape our self-concept and emotional landscape.
Cousin Sister: Since she married your long-term crush and embodies the qualities of the family you dreamed of marrying into, she represents a reflection of your desires, aspirations, and perhaps, your insecurities. The complicated relationship you have with her—marked by jealousy, competition, and unresolved tension—indicates that she may also symbolize aspects of yourself that you struggle with, such as envy or feelings of inadequacy.
Her avoidance of you in the dream is particularly striking. This could represent your feelings of neglect or unacknowledged emotions regarding your past interactions with her. Her refusal to engage, even when you offer her kindness (the donut), may reflect deep-seated frustrations or feelings of unreciprocated goodwill in your waking life. It may also indicate a fear of rejection or abandonment that has been triggered by past experiences.
The pillow fight is an interesting symbol; it indicates a desire to confront or release your pent-up frustrations, albeit in a playful (or passive-aggressive) manner. The interruption from her mother to mention your cousin's pregnancy is noteworthy, as it introduces a theme of vulnerability and reminds you of her changed status, perhaps prompting you to reconsider your approach. This element could signify the protective instincts we feel for others in light of their personal developments, reflecting the complexity of competing emotions—anger, empathy, frustration—all tied to the same person.
The conversation you have about holding grudges serves as a powerful metaphor for unresolved feelings in your life. When she refuses to disclose her reasons, it emphasizes a notion that unresolved issues exist not just between you and her but can extend to various aspects of your life. This moment of vulnerability is significant; it highlights the importance of communication in relationships and how misunderstandings can create distance. Your acknowledgment of the possibility of her eventually sharing her feelings denotes an openness to reconciliation, even when faced with current frustrations.
Overall, this dream appears to be a manifestation of your internal conflict regarding relationships, rivalry, and unacknowledged emotions. It invites you to reflect on how past experiences impact present relationships and feelings of self-worth. Your feelings toward your cousin may also mirror your self-competitive tendencies, prompting a deeper dive into your own desires and aspirations versus what others have attained.
Consider what steps you can take in consciousness to address these feelings—seeking closure, communicating your feelings, or establishing boundaries may help you to navigate and heal the guarded emotions revealed in your dream.